Single life adjustment need not take years. (c) Harlan Jacobsen HOW LONG TO ADJUST TO A SINGLE LIFESTYLE? More then 10,000 singles, (over a ten your period) attended our classes on making single life work. We noticed many that came to the class had been single for 2 or 3 years and their adjustment to single life was not progressing. Somehow this life style was just not working for them... Others came to the classes shortly after being widowed or divorced, well aware this was not going to be an easy journey. Already recognizing they needed help in adjusting and surviving a difficult time. They had difficulty finding direction to get on with an all new life. Time is a great healer and eventually heals all things. However, we pointed out that time is what life is made of. Therefore a decision needs to be made, do you want to eat up part of your life and just wait for time to cure all problems, or do you want to personally take charge of your adjusting and responsibility for getting on to a great new life. Once that decision is made, then it is a matter of learning what have others done, adjusting to and move on in short order to a bigger and better life. Figuring out quickly how you can adopt to these changes and practice making single life work. All growth is painful .....(no pain, no gain) and you will grow more as a person in the first year of adjusting to this whole new world and lifestyle, then any other period of your life. This means you will have some painful adjustments to work thru, but not a problem when you are fully aware it is just part of the process of moving on to a better life... You will not be alone, you will join with groups of others making the same journey and together enjoy the trip.  A well planned journey from point A, a bad place to point B the best place of your life, should take less then 6 months, (if you carefully avoid detours) You will know you are well adjusted to single life (and others will know too) when you just sort of blossom as a single person. * We take up all this "Adjusting To Single Life" in our "Starting Over Again" Series and other related articles monthly in our web sites and singles newspapers. see also our archives of articles. See also our test on the subject: "Have you adjusted to single life?"

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