You had as a married person double the number of supporting relatives you have now. You likely lost all the ex in laws with your divorce.

All Your Married Friends (or most at least) abandoned you like rats leaving a sinking ship.

For all your married years you were not allowed to socialize much with the opposite sex, and socializing in your interest area getting to know new people cut into relationship time so was suspect.

Result, right now, people in your life is near zero. Even your relatives, have moved you over to the "problem people", how do we handle this category.

So you need a whole new "family' of both sexes, a singles family of people you see regularly. You need to go to social things and groups, etc where you have a chance to get acquainted with new people.

Get what friends you have to invite you to parties where you meet new people. Most of your successful building a network of friends will come through people you know.

Initially would not be into formal dating.

Would be open to get together usually with others you meet, to get together as a whole bunch for coffee at a local restaurant etc.

Say, would you like to get together with us for coffee, at Dennys down the street after this is over? A bunch of us are getting together for coffee afterwards.

When you work at this all evening, you and a friend may recruit a bunch, or two or three show....for coffee, so nothing lost.

Next time at same event they will help recruit some people they would like to see more of...

This Time...around ....Do the NUMBERS: Meet many, now be open to develop a wide range of acquaintances, (both sexes) a wide range of interests and type, go where lots of people are.... No latching on to ONE (no mate hunting)_until you are well along in the process. NO hurry.

Mix, Mass Practice Socializing With New Unfamiliar types, this expands your possibilities, practice being uncomfortable with unfamiliar categories of people. A variety of people will help you "grow" as a person.

You will likely tend to want to go back and do over what you are comfortable with, (done a lot).

You DO NOT have to make an effort to find and meet people "types you are familiar and comfortable with," reruns.

Deliberately be aware and get into the "uncomfortable open to know lots of people mode and know that it is an "Okay Mode"

No need to Go back and try to repeat Act One of your life with same type of people in Act two. Expand possibilities.